I’ve been writing and re-writing this article for a couple of months. I start and stop, then put it away, because I haven’t been sure how to address my thoughts in a clear & kind manner. I find myself frustrated over what I’ve seen and read from some of my fellow Christians concerning the gay rights movement and the Supreme Court ruling over same sex marriage.
For those refusing to create wedding cakes and flower arrangements or serve pizza to homosexual couples; to those speaking, less than Christ like, words of discontent over the same sex marriage ruling, I have some thoughts.
First, my question is simply this. Does turning away gay couples from a business or speaking unkind words about them make God proud of us? Even if we say we’re doing it in defense of Him?
For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that
the world might be saved through Him.
Jesus was the ultimate teacher of love and forgiveness. I’m not sure if He would turn water into wine at a homosexual wedding, but I know for sure, He would put His arms around the couple and do His best to lead them to salvation. If, they were not already His disciples! Believe it or not, there are many people who find themselves attracted to their same gender that are also Christ followers.
Sexual sin has been a part of our landscape of life for as long as there has been life. In contrast, the legalization of marriage has only been around for a relatively short period of time. There are numerous publications on the web outlining the time-line of when and why the marriage union became a legal document. No time to outline it here, but look it up. You may be surprised. The legalization of marriage doesn’t have anything to do with God. Therefore, for those of you thinking you are defending God over the same sex marriage ruling, think again. You are actually defending a secular/government run institution.
Just because we have the right, does it make it right?
Yes, the first amendment gives us the right, as American’s, to speak our minds. But, at what cost? Should we, as Christians, go around condemning others for what we consider sin just because our constitution gives us the freedom to do so?
“He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a
stone at her.” John 8:7b
I am appalled at the treatment the flower, cake and pizza shop owners have received. Just as the gay community does not want to be mistreated because of their lifestyle, we should not be mistreated either.
I’m sorry for the way the shop owners have been treated, but I do believe we have a responsibility as Christians, to do more to show the love of Christ.
If our defense of God turns people away from Him, how is
that a good thing?
Is freedom of speech, in the name of defending God, just a license to model un-Christlike behavior? Your sin is worse than my sin, therefore, I will not serve you? What about the other sins grouped in with homosexuality in the bible? Should we turn the obese person away? How about the women coming in gossiping about their co-workers? Or the men ogling the beautiful woman just leaving the shop? Sin is sin! If we are saying we are defending the name of God while turning a gay couple away, then shouldn’t we turn away everyone else behaving less than Godly?
Since I once was a cake decorator for a living, let’s use the cake shop as an example.
What if, instead of turning the couple away, they took that opportunity to show the love of God to them?
What if they made their cake, gladly, all the while, showing the love of God?
What if they simply made a beautiful cake and delivered it with a message of love? Would that couple be more turned off from God than they are now? Or, would they have something lovely to consider that may draw them closer to Him?
“Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. Matthew 7:1-5
Our job as followers of Christ is to show His love to those we come in contact with. It is His job to change hearts. We are to model Christlike behavior not condemn everyone we don’t particularly agree with. Make no mistake. We are all complicit in blemishing the Holy Name of God in one way or another.
Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that
you will know how you should respond to each person.
Seriously friends, there are so many more important sexual sin issues to fall on our sword over. Here are a few I’d like to address.
1. Here’s a question. Since sex outside of marriage is considered sinful to God, (it’s listed in the same passage as homosexuality, gluttony, gossip etc) then why do we not have a fit over heterosexual couples having sex outside of the bonds of marriage? I’ll tell you why… Because most of us have done exactly that! As the scripture written above tells us, we are too busy yanking the spec out of someone else’s eye to bother taking the log out of our own.
2. Adultery. Yep, that one. This is a doosey isn’t it?! Yet, we go blindly along, even in the church, ignoring the consequences of this sin. This one even made God’s top ten in the thou shall not list!
3. The last one I will address will be a lump of much of the same. Pornography, prostitution and the sex slave industries. Will someone please tell me why, seriously, WHY we are not screaming from the top of our lungs over these sexual sins???
The sex slave industry is the largest and richest industry in the world! According to Destiny Rescue, every 26 seconds a young girl or boy is sold into the sex slave industry! Why is the christian community not having a conniption about this?
What could possibly be more important than taking the sex slave industry up as a cause? People choose their sin every day. How about if we help those that have no voice or choice of their fate? How about if we get just as indignant and angry over this terrible sin being perpetrated on innocence as we have over a law prohibiting consenting adults to marry?
Destiny Rescue’s sole mission is to rescue and help heal children and young adults who have been kidnapped and sold as sex slaves. Please check out the Destiny Rescue website and get involved. Just a small donation will help rescue many children and young adults from this terrible crime.
Lest we forget the Golden Rule…
I have no idea why some people are attracted to their same gender, but they are. I have known many homosexual people in my life. Some have simply experimented sexually with same sex relations just because they wanted to see what it was like on the other side of the fence. Then there are those I know who genuinely believe they were born gay. Both Christian and non-Christian alike. Maybe they were. Maybe they were not. All I know, for sure, is it’s not up to me to make them feel ashamed. It is simply up to me to be as kind and loving to them as I hope they will be to me.
Today I challenge each of us to remember not only the sacrifice of Jesus, but also the reason for His sacrifice. He died a sinless death, while taking on the sins of the world, for all of humanity. When He died on that cross, not one of us was alive. Yet still, He died for us too. Regardless of our sin.
Does God love gay people? You bet He does. Let’s make sure they know just how much.
Thank you for reading.
In His embrace,